If you dig down deep enough, fear is at the root at a lot of different issues.
Maybe you haven’t learnt to drive a car yet because you’re afraid of causing an accident.
Maybe you haven’t quit your dismal job and started your own business because you’re scared of failing, looking like a fool, losing all your money, and/or ending up homeless.
Maybe you haven’t got out of your toxic relationship because you’re scared of being alone, or of the consequences of leaving. Or maybe you haven’t got into a relationship in the first place, for fear of getting hurt.
As I’ve discovered, the groundwork for understanding the true nature of fear and learning to work through it is, quite literally, to ground yourself in a natural environment.
When we re-ground ourselves and reconnect with the Earth, we find our way back to Love with a capital L – a Love that isn’t dependent on a particular person continuing to support us, be there for us, or make our dreams come true.
The ‘Love beyond all names’, as the Song of the Healer puts it.
This process is at the root of ecopsychology and ecotherapy, although the exercises that I teach aren’t ‘therapy’ in the conventional sense – they can be used by anyone, with or without mental health difficulties.
That doesn’t mean it’s an easy or comfortable process. The nettles and thorns are just the beginning, and even the potential for disease-ridden ticks or venomous snakes isn’t the end of the story. When we’re out wandering in the wilderness, we’re alone with ourselves. We’re unprotected: away from all the distractions that keep us numbed and dumbed, like TV, overwork, overeating and social media obsession.
So the very soulwork that helps us to face our fears is, in itself, fundamentally scary for a lot of people. Taking that first step is hard to do, without help.
My new e-course, Doing the Groundwork: Getting Ready for Major Life Changes, starts with a small, manageable step that most people probably wouldn’t expect…
Finding your place in nature.
As before, I’m talking both literally and metaphorically. You’ll find an actual place in nature that you can go to. Preferably not the wilderness, in the first instance. A tree in your garden is ideal; or if you don’t have a garden, maybe a hidden corner of your local park, or the bit of waste ground behind your office.
If necessary, you’ll take a deep breath; tell a friend where you’re going; and take your mobile phone (in case you get stalked by a creepy pervert), your water bottle, your emergency first aid kit, and a pen to poke in the eye of said pervert while kneeing him in the groin so you can make your escape. And then you’ll turn the phone off, and start to realise that the Sacred Land has its own song:
Bring me your troubled soul, and I will make you whole,
For as you walk the ancient tracks you will attain your goal…
The cart opens for Doing the Groundwork on Monday 4th September. In the US, it’s Labor Day. In the UK, it’s the first day of the autumn term. Summer’s over, holidays are done. It’s time to get back to business.
So give yourself a chance, remind yourself that the Warrior Maiden is still there within you, and take that one small step. Click this link to pre-register for the course today, and receive a notification e-mail as soon as registration opens…